Good morning all of my loves.
Just trust me, we need this.

This week has been the pits, the worst, awful, ew, capital T Terrible. It was the anniversary of my Poppy’s death on Wednesday, yesterday I got a flat, AND A TICKET. Stress stress stress at work and at school. Of course the ever present thought of finals coming up. The need to do my defensive driving, STILL.

I am a strong individual but I am cracking under the pressure.

So after waking up with an eye swollen shut (from pointless POINTLESS crying), a lot of ice, and plenty of make up… I’m ready to try again.

When I decided this morning to try again and have a good day I said it, but I didn’t make an effort! Which did nothing for me. So I decided to start small with something simple.
Getting to school on time. Just a little baby goal. But I did it and I felt better. Then I decided to set another goal.
Smile at everyone I see. I did and this really sweet person told me they liked my lipstick which perked me up.
Then when Teddy sat down for morning coffee and to do our quizzes this other person walked in the coffee shop and walked up to me and said my lipstick looked really good on me. So when they got to the counter I asked if I could pay for their coffee! They said yes and they were really happy. I figured out her name was Hannah and shook her hand. She was super nice and told me about a trip she’s about to take in a few weeks or so.
When she went to leave she came up to me and told her I made her day and she hoped that I would have a good day too.

So instead of having a bad day this morning just because of a few bad days I can’t change that already happened I focused my mind on doing very small positive things and it turned my whole week around!

I hope all of you decide to have a good day today and if you don’t I hope you’re all brave enough to try again tomorrow.

Special props to my very good friend from back home Megan McCarroll for taking my challenge to write down one good thing that happens to you every day for the rest of 2014!

Love always from my home to yours.
XOXO,
NBNealie

P.S. Here’s my flat tire fiasco!

Hello all my subbies and new comers, it’s the first day of November!

You have 2 months left to enjoy 2014.
Now is a time we need to finish strong. All of my school loves need to buckle down and focus, and all of my hardworking loves need to balance work and family lives.

Today I am proposing a challenge! You have 61 days left in 2014. Every single day you need to write down one good thing that happened to you. Just type it up really fast in your notes on your phone or scribble it in a notebook you use everyday.
Today my good thing is I woke up at my Momma and Casey’s new house in West Texas!

I can’t believe I’m here nearing the close of 2014 when just at the beginning I thought I’d never make it through all these changes alive! If I told you it hadn’t been an adjustment/struggle I’d be lying. However you should know, this has been the best time of my life.

This month please be looking out for:
-The last Mori.
-A drug abuse/depression awareness post.
-A Veterans Day post.

XOXO,
NBNealie

P.S. I love you all endlessly!

XOXO
NBNealie

I just want you all to know how good God is!
Today I had a lot on my plate and I was really tired BUT instead of feeling defeated about it and having a bad day I decided to pray about it and ask God to help me out in keeping a good attitude and giving 100% while I figured everything out.
So I took everything one thing at a time and went to class, came home to type up my resume, sent it to a few people to edit, had time for a one hour nap, ate, went to work, and then found out the new guy had not been trained at all on his training night prior. On top of that he told me he hadn’t paid any attention to his online training courses either! Normally I would’ve been very angry and frustrated about this. Today I wasn’t though! The two of us took on prime time and I even got him pretty decently trained for this being his first job ever!
Then I asked one of my managers if I could send my resume off to them as well to go over, (Which will be even more helpful.) and they said yes so that’s GREAT. Not only that, but I also got off 3 hours early so now I can do my defensive driving course!

Blessings upon blessings upon blessings.

XOXO,
NBNealie

Hello all of you! It is indeed a GOOD morning!
I’m going to start off by saying I have been faced with a whole lot of negativity lately. Friends, family, the news, etc have been talking more about troubles than blessings. So I imagine lots of you must be facing the same issues.
Just know that as you begin reading this: Positivity will change. your. life. So here are some reasons why you should try and think positively!

Positivity has made me able to:
•Hold my tongue and avoid conflict.
•Positively affect others lives.
•Love myself.
•Believe in myself.
•Pursue my dreams.

I fight with people so much less! Im a confrontational person. It’s just who I am. I’ve been working on it for years and I just haven’t been able to shake it. HOWEVER, since pursuing a positive lifestyle with a positive mind set I’ve been able to just not say anything at all instead of arguing. I’m able to think more rationally. I even fight less with my mom. Which is almost impossible because we are the exact same person.

I am able to help others that are in a negative place. It’s so much easier to be motivational when you are coming from a positive place. Also it’s easier to point out silver linings in situations. When a person comes to you with a problem it’s best to actively listen to the entire situation and highlight some high points for them! A lot of times we can’t see the good from where we stand. The outside looking in is sometimes the best approach for finding a good aspect of a negative situation.

I LOVE MYSELF SO MUCH MORE. With a positive mindset you are able to focus on all the good things about your life. In fact I seldom find myself down and out about things out of my control. I spend more time focusing on my goals and being happy about all of my accomplishments. For any of my loves who have ongoing problems with loving yourself one way to have a positive view of yourself is to write down three things you love about yourself every single day! You are a great person in more than one aspect. (You’ve just got to remind yourself sometimes.)

I believe in my ability to achieve my goals. Maybe that was what was wrong with my in high school. I simply couldn’t picture myself achieving any of my dreams. Now even when I’m knocked back a few steps I view it as a learning experience and I move forward while adapting accordingly.

Lastly I can see that I am not ACTIVELY pursuing my dreams. When you feel like anything is possible you have no reason not to take an aggressive approach to your future. For a really long time I was living on the defensive. THERE IS NO REASON FOR THAT. A goal might take a long time to achieve! Go for it anyways because the time will pass regardless!

XOXO,
NBNealie

Reminder for all of my high school kids, my college kids, and my workaholics.

Sometimes this gets me through the day!
Love yourself and work hard. What you put out into the world is what you get back. No one owes you anything and at the end of the day you should be your own biggest fan.

Love always and be safe this weekend!
XOXO,
NBNealie

Good morning to my subbies and all the new comers (that really should become subscribers).
I missed my last scheduled Mori posting date because of an unexpected opportunity to spend time with my family! I mean would it even be NBN anymore if I hit all my scheduled dates?
Don’t worry, it’s a double trouble day and Mori will go live at 9 tonight.

Today. Is. Important.
I need to talk to you.
Really bad.
About stuff.
Stuff that I think we all need to talk about this time of year.
It’s the end of semester for my high school and college loves, it’s coming up on the end of the year for all of my out-of-school-working-too-much loves that are just trying to get enough days off to enjoy the holidays. (Fingers crossed you get all the family time possible as we creep up on the holidays.)
I’ve spent a lot of time this year encouraging you all to keep going, stay motivated, and push yourselves past your comfort zones.
Today is no different. We are talking specifically about passion and a conviction about the type of person you are.

Let’s get into it (It’s going to be scatter brained and messy):

Listen to me. Whatever is going on right now that has you down or bothered is not important. You know what is important? Your goals.
Currently as a student, employee, friend, and family member I am doing pretty. darn. good. Yesterday though I felt sorry for myself. I spent 10 minutes feeling sorry for myself yesterday over something downright dumb.
Then I thought… Why? I have so many reasons to be happy and proud of myself. My grades rock, my family is AWESOME, and my job is stellar! I’m headed towards my degree at light speed! What’s not to like about life!?

YOU DO TOO!

Make the person that sees greatness in you YOURSELF!
I’m not going to sit here and tell you life will be peachy of the rest of your days. I’m not an idiot and I’m not a liar. What I’m saying is that as long as you are loving and kind with people and PASSIONATE about your goals you are doing a phenomenal job. You don’t need me to tell you that! You should know. In fact, it’s up to you to know that and believe that about yourself.
Sometimes small things get you down (or a mountain of small things piled on your shoulders). I understand that. We are human and even the strongest humans are fragile. Here’s the thing. We can’t waste any time feeling sorry for ourselves. Mental health days. Days to get back on your feet. Those things will always be okay! Just as long as you don’t waste any of those minutes/hours/days on self pity.
You’re doing a good job. There are two months left in 2014 and you have made it all this time! You have a heart that’s still beating and a life you’re still living. Sometimes if we have negative influences in our lives we forget how lucky we are! REMEMBER STRONG OPPOSITION LEADS TO STRONG WILL.

I hope that as we finish up these last few months in 2014 y’all will forget the deadlines, the angry bosses, the tests, the small stuff, the fights of any kind, and ANYONE telling you that you can’t or laughs at your dreams or goals or projects. Why? Because the simple fact that you think a thought/goal/job you have done is important or your best is MORE THAN GOOD ENOUGH!

Please don’t waste any time not believing in you and remember:

“A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself.” ― D.H. Lawrence, Complete Poems of D. H. Lawrence.

XOXO,
NBNealie

P.S. I know my blog posts contain lots of lists and scenarios! I try and keep the content relevant to everyone because I have a very diverse audience. Thanks for putting up with all of my hullabaloo!

P.P.S. Every year NBN does a self harm/depression/drug abuse awareness segment! (TWLOHA, Semicolon Project, Love is Louder, On The Bright Side I’m Not Addicted to Cocaine) So be looking for that in November some time. Remember to love yourself! (and if that ever gets to be just a bit too hard remember that myself and all of us here at NBN love you.)